holding hand on the public

does any1 have the gut to hand their partner's hand in the public area? coz my partner never hold mine in public, due to the fact that she is a traditional chinese, she cant bear that how people would see us.

Hey there,

Firstly good to have you and your partner in here!

And secondly my answer is everytime, mainly because for me , it feels unnatural (no pun or play intended there ) to not show affection to the woman I love whether we're indoors or out! But that is me and everyone is different, some people like to show affection publicly, some don't whether they're female/male, gay/straight etc etc for a variety of reasons.

What I find funny tho is that PDA (lol Public Display of Affection) is such a hot topic for us lesbian/bi/gay peeps...when heterosexuals take it for granted, why shouldn't we? Ohhh...have I opened a can of worms here?!

hehe,

Amyxx

I don't have a problem handing hands with my partners in public but the only place I choose not to do so is in Chinatown...I can't risk the possibility of words getting back to my mum and relatives...

Of course...and kiss too!!

I've seen many girls holding hands when I was in Beijing but I was told it's 'just' because they're good friends. It's a sign of showing friendship.
Er, so, it is actually kinda difficult to see when two girls are close friends or lovers.

May I ask a question. Is it more or less acceptible to be gay and have a white partner rather than Chinese or you know? I'm a British white gay girl and I love a woman for who she is not what race or colour however, it amazes me when someone can accept someone being gay but not the colour of their partner or the other way round if straight. Do most of you girls have Chinese girlfriends and do most of your families know? I hope I am not being too personal. my ex gf was Filipino and I guess I always knew I would never be accepted into her life, she kept so much hidden from her friends and family.

Hey. I'm chinese who has a "white" girlfriend. Inverted the "white" because personally I hate specifically stating different races especially if it's my girlfriend. ;x

My family doesn't know yet. But my siblings know... I do intend to tell my parents one day and not surprised if they find out by themselves (ie; the chinese community gossiping). I usually hold hands with my gf cause I don't care who sees or what other people think... though I do get the occasional(who am I kidding? -90% the time) stares from passing chinese folks.

I just don't have the guts yet to tell my parents but I have chosen a date to tell them though- when me and my gf get our place together. And oh, trust me, it's very unlikely for chinese familes to take the 'gay news' well.

Hello,

I'm french and my girlfriend is chinese, in Paris, i talk about everything i know, and it's not a problem for gays lesbian to hold hands, and i'm really surprise to hear that especially in London coz in France i know we've got approximatly ten years late of gays rights when we look at yours and others europeans countries.

Is that only a problem of what others people think about you or what they could say to your family ?

If i take my experience, a mother knows everything even if she doesn't say anything, she always knows. I don't know how they do but they know.

It's true that it depend to your culture so don't ask to much to quickly let the time do his job, and one day she holds your hand in public, ;P

See you